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📊 VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA

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Vlad | Mentalist | Modeller | Handicapper
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Vlad | Mentalist | Modeller | Handicapper
He is an explorer of the structure of subjective experience, seeking a deeper understanding of how people experience the world through their conscious and subconscious minds. He studies the inner worlds of thoughts, feelings, and sensations that shape our perceptions, behaviors, and choices.
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“Self-value elicitation: It’s like staring into a mirror and asking ‘So, what are we good for besides Netflix?’” - Uknown

📄 ABSTRACT OF VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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“In a world filled with endless choices and distractions, it is essential to have a strong foundation of personal values and selection criteria to guide our decisions and actions.

“Values First! Uncover Your Core Principles & Selection Criteria” invites you to explore the very heart of who you are and what truly matters. Through a series of reflective exercises and insightful inquiries, you will embark on a quest to identify your core values and the criteria that shape your choices. By delving into your beliefs, priorities, and experiences, you will uncover the fundamental principles that have been guiding your life, often behind the scenes. Imagine having a compass that navigates your decisions, actions, and interactions with clarity and purpose.

In this guide, you will not only discover your authentic self but also learn how to live a life aligned with your core principles. You will gain a powerful framework for decision-making, enabling you to choose paths that resonate with your values. Whether it’s navigating relationships, career choices, or life goals, your values will become the beacon that illuminates your way forward.

But it’s not just about uncovering your values; it’s also about living them. “Values First!” empowers you to infuse your daily actions and long-term goals with meaning and purpose. You will learn how to build relationships that honor your values, contribute to causes that resonate with your heart, and create a life that reflects your true self. By placing your values at the forefront, you will experience a sense of authenticity, fulfillment, and deep satisfaction.

Join us on this transformative journey, and unlock the power of your core principles. “Values First!” will guide you toward a life of purpose, meaning, and authentic happiness. It’s an invitation to live a life that is beautifully and uniquely yours, where every step takes you closer to your true north. Are you ready to discover your core?

THE BENEFITS OF THE VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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“Okay, here’s the deal: Universe, you give me the perfect job, and I’ll, uh… I’ll try hard not to mess it up?” - Uknown

Uncovering Your Core Principles

Imagine waking up one morning with a sense of excitement and curiosity. You’ve just begun your journey with “Values First! Uncover Your Core Principles & Selection Criteria.” As you dive into the pages, you’re invited to embark on a path of self-discovery, exploring the very essence of who you are and what matters most to you. With each chapter, you peel back the layers of your beliefs, priorities, and experiences, uncovering the values that have been guiding your life, often behind the scenes.

You begin to understand the power of your values—those fundamental principles that shape your decisions, actions, and interactions. They are the compass that navigates your life’s path, and you realize the importance of bringing them into the light of conscious awareness.

A Compass for Your Life’s Journey
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As you continue your exploration, you start to identify your core values—those that resonate deeply within your heart and soul. Perhaps it’s integrity, kindness, courage, or freedom. You recognize that these values have always been a part of you, influencing your choices and shaping your unique perspective on life. They are the bedrock upon which you stand, providing stability and direction.

You learn that values are not just abstract concepts but rather the very essence of who you are. They are the standards by which you live your life and make your decisions. With this realization, you understand the importance of choosing values that resonate with your true self, rather than those imposed by society or external expectations.

Aligning Your Life with Your Values
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The journey doesn’t stop at discovery; it’s just the beginning. You’re now equipped with a powerful framework for living a values-based life. You learn how to align your daily actions, relationships, and long-term goals with your core principles. It’s like having a compass that guides you through life’s twists and turns, ensuring that every step takes you closer to your true north.

You start making conscious choices—choosing friends who share your values, pursuing careers that align with your passions and beliefs, and contributing to causes that resonate with your heart. Your values become the filter through which you navigate the world, bringing a sense of purpose and meaning to your everyday experiences.

Navigating Life’s Challenges with Resilience #

Life is full of challenges and unexpected twists, and your values become your anchor during turbulent times. When faced with difficult decisions or ethical dilemmas, you have the clarity and courage to choose the path that honors your core principles. You understand that challenges are growth opportunities, and your values provide the resilience to navigate them with strength and wisdom.

Your values-based compass guides you through stormy seas, helping you stay true to yourself even when external pressures try to sway you. It’s like having an inner lighthouse, shining a light on the path ahead and reminding you of your authentic self.

Building Meaningful Connections
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As you continue your journey, you realize that values are not just individual signposts but also bridges that connect us to others. You attract like-minded people who share your values, creating deep and meaningful relationships. Your values become the foundation for authentic connections, fostering trust, understanding, and mutual respect.

You learn to communicate your values clearly and listen deeply to others, creating a space where everyone feels valued and understood. Your relationships become a source of support, inspiration, and joy, knowing that you are surrounded by people who truly get you and share your fundamental beliefs.

Living a Life of Purpose and Fulfillment
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With your values as your guide, you embark on a life filled with purpose and fulfillment. Your daily actions are infused with meaning as they align with your core principles. You set long-term goals that resonate with your values, knowing that each step brings you closer to your vision.

You wake up each morning with a sense of excitement and gratitude, knowing that your life is an expression of your true self. You embrace the beauty of personal growth, continually reflecting on and evolving your values as you navigate life’s twists and turns. Your values become the beacon that illuminates your path, leading you to a life of authenticity, happiness, and true fulfillment.

And so, your journey with “Values First!” becomes a transformative adventure. It’s not just about uncovering your core principles but also about living a life that is authentically and beautifully yours. It’s a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and the creation of a meaningful life, guided by the values that resonate within your heart.

🏛️ ORIGINS AND PRINCIPLES OF VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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The origin of value elicitation as a concept and practice can be traced back to various philosophical, psychological, and anthropological traditions across cultures. While the specific methods and frameworks may vary, the underlying recognition of the importance of understanding values and their influence on human behavior is a universal thread that connects these diverse traditions.

Philosophical Roots

In Western philosophy, the exploration of values and ethics has a rich history dating back to ancient Greek philosophers such as Aristotle, Plato, and Socrates. Their inquiries into virtue, morality, and the good life laid the foundation for subsequent philosophical traditions that continued to delve into the nature of values and their role in human society.

Psychological Perspectives

The field of psychology has also played a significant role in the development of value elicitation techniques. Humanistic psychologists like Abraham Maslow and Carl Rogers emphasized the importance of self-actualization and the need for individuals to fulfill their unique potential. Their theories highlighted the role of personal values in motivating behavior and influencing personal growth.

Cognitive psychology has also contributed to value elicitation methods. Researchers in this field explore how individuals process and prioritize values, developing techniques to understand the cognitive representation of values and their impact on decision-making.

Anthropological Insights

Anthropology, the study of human cultures and societies, provides a cross-cultural perspective on value elicitation. Anthropologists have long recognized the role of values and beliefs in shaping social norms, rituals, and behaviors within different cultural contexts. Their ethnographic research methods often involve immersing themselves in diverse communities to understand the values and worldviews that shape local practices and traditions.

Eastern Philosophical Traditions

In Eastern philosophies, such as Buddhism and Taoism, the concept of values and their influence on human behavior is also deeply explored. These traditions emphasize the importance of understanding one’s true nature and living in harmony with universal principles or natural laws. While the specific values may differ from Western traditions, the recognition of their impact on personal and societal well-being is consistent.

Cross-Cultural Applications

Value elicitation has been applied across cultures in various fields, including international development, cross-cultural communication, and global business. For example, development organizations often use value elicitation techniques to understand the values and priorities of local communities they aim to serve, ensuring that their interventions are culturally sensitive and effective.

In cross-cultural communication, value elicitation helps bridge misunderstandings and conflicts by identifying shared or divergent values between different cultural groups. In global business, understanding the values of diverse consumers and employees is crucial for creating successful products, services, and workplace cultures.

The origin of value elicitation can be seen as a collective effort across cultures and disciplines to understand the fundamental drivers of human behavior and decision-making. By recognizing the importance of values and their influence, practitioners from various fields have developed methods and frameworks to uncover and work with these core principles, ultimately aiming to create positive change and enhance human well-being.

PRINCIPLES OF VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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  • Understanding Human Behavior: We are all practical psychologists with the ability to decipher what’s happening in ourselves and others. By understanding the nature of human beings and the driving forces behind our emotions and actions, we can improve our relationships, leadership skills, and overall influence.

  • Fear as a Motivator: Fear is an innate human emotion that can immobilize us or drive us forward. By recognizing our fears and learning to use them constructively, we can harness their energy for personal growth and transformation.

  • Core Human Needs: There are fundamental human needs that drive our behavior and shape our lives: certainty, uncertainty/variety, significance, connection/love, growth, and contribution. Understanding these needs and how we prioritize them can unlock the answers to creating lasting change.

  • Values and Priorities: Our values and the criteria we use to meet our needs determine our life paths. By valuing certain needs over others, we create unique lives and interactions. Recognizing and adjusting our priorities can lead to personal transformation.

  • Emotion and Physiology: Our emotions are closely linked to our physical state and the language we use. By changing our physiology, focus, and language, we can transform our emotional state and create the feelings we desire.

  • Self-Reflection and Awareness: Through self-reflection and exploration, we can gain a deeper understanding of our fears, needs, and values. This awareness empowers us to make conscious choices that align with our true selves and desired emotions.

  • Personal Growth and Transformation: By recognizing our fears, understanding our needs, and adjusting our values, we open the door to personal growth and transformation. We can create a life of fulfillment and joy by meeting our spiritual needs and contributing to the greater good.

  • Sustainable Joy and Contribution: Meeting our spiritual needs, such as growth and contribution, leads to sustainable joy instead of momentary pleasure. By focusing on contribution and serving a greater purpose, we can experience true fulfillment and make a positive impact on the world.

  • Positive Influence and Connection: By understanding ourselves and others through the lens of human needs and values, we can build deeper connections and have a more positive influence on those around us. Empathy, compassion, and understanding flourish when we recognize the shared human experience.

These principles provide a framework for understanding human behavior, emotions, and motivation. By applying these insights, we can enhance our relationships, leadership skills, and overall well-being, creating a life of purpose, growth, and positive impact.

🗨️ GUIDING PARTICIPANTS IN VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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  • Sitting by side so you can perceive nuances in facial expression, gestures, and coloration of the skin and not stay in the way of a client who is accessing their images and creating metaphors in front of them.
  • Modulate your voice and speak slowly and melodically.
  • Be interested in client exploration.
  • Repeat the client’s words using his voice delivery. For instance, when the client spoke about an exciting event, his face lightened up, his words speeded up and his tone of voice was higher. As a professional, you are, to match his expression or attend acting class to learn essentials.
  • Connect the question and experience with coordinating conjunction and/as/when.

💧 VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA SCRIPT BASED ON THE EXPLORATION OF VLADIMIR KLIMSA
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“Inner critic during self-value elicitation: ‘You call those skills? More like party tricks.’” - *Unknown”

Vlad: “Hello, What can I do for you today?”

Client: “Over several years I have tried to relax using many different techniques. And once I feel my body meld into the floor, the thought comes to my mind and I hear myself to say something which needs my attention.”

Vlad: “Till now you have tried in various degrees to relax and experienced a state of relaxation for specific moments till thought came in and caught the focus of your attention. What’s important about being relaxed?”

Client: “My decision can cause loss of several hundreds of jobs, millions of dollars, and even my life. I feel weight on my shoulders and I need to be able to take care of myself.”

Vlad: “Your decision has got a real impact and you need to take care of yourself. What does taking care of yourself allow you to experience?”

Client: “I will be in the present.”

Vlad: “And when you will be in the present, what will staying in the present state do for you?”

Client: “I will flow.”

Vlad: “And when you will experience flow, what’s flow state allow you to have?”

Client: “I have a deep connection to the whole.”

Vlad: “As you experience a deep connection to the whole, what does having a deep connection to the whole allow you to experience?”

Client: “Oneneness.”

Vlad: “And when you feel oneness, what does oneness allow you to experience?”

Client: “There is nothing more important.”

Vlad: “We have found several values in your relaxation process and I would like you to make a hierarchy of your values. If I were to ask you If you could select only one which one would you select: Relax or take care of yourself?”

Client: “Take care of yourself.”

Vlad: “If you can select only one which one would you select: Flow or take care of yourself?”

Client: “Flow.”

Vlad: “If you can select only one which one would you select: Flow or Deep connection to the whole?”

Client: “Deep connection to the whole.”

Vlad: “If you can select only one which one would you select: Deep connection to the whole or Oneneness”

Client: “Oneness.”

Vlad: “Your list of values is:

  1. Oneness
  2. Deep connection to the whole
  3. Flow
  4. Take care of yourself
  5. Relax

and now I would like to explore your criteria for your values. “How do you know that you experience relaxation? In other words, what do you see, hear, tell yourself, grab or touch externally or internally that allows you to access relaxation as a state?”

Client: “I know that I am relaxing when my body feels warm, heavy, and limp, my breathing pattern changes, thoughts are distant. I don’t know what happened just now and I feel relaxed.”

Vlad: “How do you know that you are taking care of yourself? In other words, what do you see, hear, tell yourself, grab or touch externally or internally that allows you to access taking care of yourself as a state?”

Client: “I think of my needs instead of thinking about the issues at hand. I am choosing the path which I feel comfortable with and train myself to higher standards which I set up for myself.”

Vlad: “How do you know that you are in the state of flow? In other words, what do you see, hear, tell yourself, grab or touch externally or internally that allows you to access flow as a state?”

Client: “I feel as if I am a vessel of energy and I can tap into and use resources that I have.”

Vlad: “How do you know that have enter deep connection to the whole? In other words, what do you see, hear, tell yourself, grab or touch externally or internally that allows you to access deep connection to the whole as a state?”

Client: “I sense this connection as color threads connect me with the whole. I feel it as an energy and relationship.”

Vlad: “How do you know that have got oneness? In other words, what do you see, hear, tell yourself, grab or touch externally or internally that allows you to access oneness as a state?”

Client: “I feel I am the one with everything. I see myself as a part of the whole.”

Vlad: Wonderful. Now, slowly bring your awareness back to your breath. Take a few more deep breaths, integrating this positive state into your being.

Client: Thank you, I feel relaxed, this was helpful!

Vlad: “To connect deeply you might consider the Core transformation method by Connirae Andreas. Allow me to guide you in the next 30 minutes.”

Client: “Ok. Let’s go for it.”

Core Transformation

Client: “Something had changed. I can feel more relaxed now and connected with my inner me. Thanks very much.”

Vlad: “You are welcome. From the state of oneness that radiates through, transforms, and enriches your initial feeling. How do you feel about yourself now and in the future?”

Client: “I feel and know that I can access any of those values and states quickly, easily, and well and I’ll continue practicing with joy. Thanks very much.”

Vlad: “That’s good to hear. Good luck.”

👣 THE BASIC PROCESS VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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Questions for eliciting values are: What will having X do for you? What will experience X do for you? What does being X allow you to do, experience, or have?

  • What matters most to you in life?
  • What principles or standards do you strive to live by?
  • When do you feel most fulfilled and alive?
  • What qualities do you admire and respect in others?
  • In an ideal world, how would you spend your time and energy?
  • What legacy do you want to leave behind?
  • What are your non-negotiables in life or relationships?
  • What do you prioritize and hold dear?
  • In challenging times, what keeps you going?
  • What brings you a sense of purpose or meaning?
  • If you could design your perfect day, what values would it embody?
  • What are your deal breakers in personal or professional relationships?
  • When have you felt the most proud or satisfied? Why?
  • What do you value most about your career or vocation?
  • How do you define success for yourself?
  • What aspects of your life bring you the most joy? Why?
  • When do you feel most authentically yourself?
  • In your closest relationships, what qualities do you cherish most?
  • If you had unlimited resources, how would you spend your time and energy?
  • What causes or beliefs do you passionately support? Why?
  • When have you felt the most alive and engaged? What values were present?
  • What matters to you more than anything else?
  • What are your must-haves for a fulfilling and meaningful life?
  • When have you felt a sense of deep contentment? Why?
  • If you could leave one thing behind for future generations, what would it be?

Remember, values are deeply personal, and these questions are meant to spark reflection and self-discovery. The answers will vary for each individual, and there are no right or wrong responses. The key is to explore and uncover what truly matters to you, so you can live a life aligned with your core principles and values.

Questions for criteria elicitation are: How do you know when you have or are?

  • How will you know when you’re living in alignment with your values?
  • What specific actions or behaviors demonstrate your commitment to your values?
  • In your daily life, what indicators show that you’re on the right path?
  • What tangible outcomes or achievements represent success to you?
  • What standards or measures do you use to evaluate your decisions or actions?
  • How do you define and measure progress toward your goals?
  • What non-negotiables do you have in terms of personal conduct or integrity?
  • What are your deal breakers when it comes to relationships or partnerships?
  • How do you evaluate whether a decision is right for you?
  • What specific qualities or characteristics do you look for in a job or career path?
  • In terms of health and well-being, what criteria do you use to assess your lifestyle choices?
  • Financially, what milestones or achievements represent success and security to you?
  • In your ideal relationship, what behaviors or actions demonstrate love and commitment?
  • When setting goals, what criteria do you use to ensure they are aligned with your values?
  • How do you measure your level of satisfaction or fulfillment in life?
  • What specific actions or habits contribute to your sense of well-being?
  • When faced with a difficult decision, what criteria do you use to make a choice?
  • How do you know when a relationship is healthy and mutually supportive?
  • What criteria do you use to assess your personal growth and development?
  • In terms of personal development, what milestones or achievements matter most to you?
  • When do you feel a sense of pride or accomplishment? What criteria led to that feeling?
  • How do you evaluate the effectiveness of your actions in achieving your desired outcomes?
  • What specific steps or achievements represent progress toward your long-term goals?
  • When do you feel a sense of balance and harmony in your life? What factors contribute to that balance?
  • If you could design your ideal life, what specific elements or criteria would it include?

Remember, criteria are unique to each individual and provide a tangible framework for living a life aligned with your values. These questions are meant to spark reflection and help you define what success, fulfillment, and alignment look like for you.

Start with Your Desires
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The first step in this process is to identify what you want. It can be something small or a grand aspiration—the size doesn’t matter. All you need is a starting point. So, ask yourself: “What do I want?”

Let’s say you want to buy your dream home. You can begin by stating: “I want to own my dream home.” From there, we’ll delve deeper into the values and benefits that this desire holds for you.

Uncovering the “Why” Behind Your Wants
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We’ll use a series of questions to explore the reasons behind your wants. This process will help you uncover the values that drive your desires and the benefits you hope to gain.

Question 1: “What will having your dream home do for you?”

Answer: “Having my dream home will give me a sense of comfort and security.”

Question 2: “And what will having that comfort and security do for you?”

Answer: “It will allow me to create a stable and loving environment for my family.”

Question 3: “When you have that stable and loving environment, what will that do for you, or what’s important about that?”

Answer: “Then I will feel a sense of belonging and fulfillment.”

Creating a Vision Infused with Your Values
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At this point, you’ve identified some of your core values, such as security, family, and belonging. Now, it’s time to create a vision that incorporates these values. Imagine yourself in your dream home, surrounded by your loved ones, and feeling a deep sense of security and fulfillment. See representations of your values in this vision—perhaps a cozy living room where your family gathers or a garden where you find peace and connection with nature.

Overcoming Resistance
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As you hold this vision, it’s important to address any resistance that may arise. Ask yourself: “What stops me from having this?” Allow your unconscious mind to answer. Welcome the resistance and presume it has a positive intent or message for you. It might be trying to protect you from potential challenges or risks.

For example, the resistance could be stated as: “I don’t want to take on a mortgage that burdens me financially.” To turn this into a positive statement, ask: “What do I want instead?” The answer could be: “I want financial freedom and security.”

Now, elicit the values from this positive statement using the same process as before:

Question 1: “What will have financial freedom and security do for you?”

Answer: “It will give me peace of mind and the ability to enjoy my life without financial worries.”

Continue this process until you’ve uncovered all the values and benefits associated with your desire. Then, integrate these values into your vision, ensuring that it aligns with your true wants and needs.

When it comes to rating and rearranging values, there are a few approaches you can consider. One commonly used method is to assign a numerical rating to each value, indicating its level of importance to you. Here’s a suggested process:

Rating Your Values
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  1. Identify Your Values: Begin by listing all the values that you hold dear. These could include principles such as honesty, integrity, family, success, creativity, freedom, health, or any other values that resonate with you.

  2. Assign Initial Ratings: Next to each value, assign a rating on a scale of 1 to 10 (or any range that feels comfortable to you). The higher the rating, the more important that value is to you. This initial rating is based on your intuitive sense of each value’s significance.

  3. Reflect and Adjust: Take some time to reflect on your initial ratings. Consider the following questions: Are there any values that you feel could be rated higher or lower? Are there values that you realize are more or less important to you than you initially thought? Adjust your ratings accordingly, trusting your intuition and inner wisdom.

  4. Prioritize Your Top Values: After adjusting your ratings, identify your top three to five values—the ones with the highest ratings. These are the values that you hold in the highest regard and want to prioritize in your life.

  5. Explore the Reasons: For each of your top values, ask yourself why it is important to you. Dig deep to understand the underlying reasons and motivations behind your ratings. This step helps you gain a clearer understanding of why certain values matter so much to you.

Rearranging Your Values
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Once you have rated your values and identified your top priorities, you can rearrange them in order of importance. This step helps you visualize the hierarchy of your values and makes it easier to refer back to them when making decisions or taking action.

  • Create a Hierarchy: Start by listing your top three to five values in descending order, with the most important value at the top. This hierarchy reflects your current priorities and can guide your choices and behaviors.

  • Consider Trade-Offs: As you rearrange your values, reflect on the trade-offs you might be willing to make. For example, if “freedom” is rated higher than “financial stability,” you may be willing to sacrifice some financial security for the sake of having more freedom in your life. Understanding these trade-offs can provide valuable insights when making difficult decisions.

  • Review and Revise: Periodically review and revise your values hierarchy. As you grow and evolve, your values may shift, and that’s okay! Life experiences, new perspectives, and changing priorities can all influence how you rate and arrange your values.

Remember, rating and rearranging your values is a personal process that should reflect your unique priorities and perspectives. It’s okay if your values differ from others or if they change over time. The important thing is that you live your life according to what matters most to you and make choices that honor your authentic self.

Integrating Your Vision into Your Life
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Once you’ve crafted a vision that resonates with your values and addressed any resistance, the next step is to integrate it into your daily life. Spend a few minutes each day visualizing your dream home and the associated values. Do this for 30 days, and then let it go, trusting that it will continue to work on a subconscious level.

Eliciting Criteria for Your Dream Life
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In the previous message, we focused on uncovering your values and the “why” behind your desires. Now, let’s shift our attention to eliciting the specific criteria that will help you achieve your dream life. Criteria are the tangible indicators or measures that show you’re living in alignment with your values. They provide clarity and direction on how to turn your values into reality.

Criteria for Your Dream Home
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Let’s continue with the example of wanting to buy your dream home. We’ve identified some of your core values, such as security, family, and belonging. Now, let’s explore the criteria that will help you create a stable and loving environment for your family and a sense of fulfillment for yourself.

Question 1: “What specific aspects of your dream home will contribute to a stable and loving environment for your family?”

Answer: “A spacious layout with dedicated spaces for each family member, a cozy living room for gatherings, and a functional kitchen for preparing meals together.”

Question 2: “What features or amenities will enhance the sense of security and comfort you desire?”

Answer: “A safe neighborhood, a well-maintained home with modern security features, and a reliable home warranty for peace of mind.”

Question 3: “How will you know when you’ve created a sense of belonging and fulfillment in your dream home?”

Answer: “When I see my family laughing and creating memories together, when we host gatherings with friends and loved ones, and when I feel a deep sense of peace and contentment in the space.”

Creating Clear and Measurable Criteria
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The key to effective criteria is to make them specific, measurable, and aligned with your values. Here are some additional questions to help refine your criteria:

  • “What specific features or characteristics of your dream home are non-negotiable?”

  • “How will you measure or know when you’ve achieved each criterion?”

  • “Are your criteria aligned with your core values, or do they need further refinement?”

Overcoming Resistance and Integrating Your Criteria
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As with value elicitation, it’s important to address any resistance that may arise when setting your criteria. Welcome the resistance and presume it has a positive intent. For example, resistance might arise around financial constraints or the fear of not finding the perfect home. Use the same process of turning the resistance into a positive statement and eliciting the values behind it.

Once you’ve identified and refined your criteria, integrate them into your vision. See yourself enjoying the specific features of your dream home, experiencing the sense of security and fulfillment you desire. Visualize your family gatherings and the memories you’ll create.

Taking Action and Measuring Progress
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Criteria provide a roadmap for turning your vision into reality. They give you measurable milestones to work towards. For example, you can research neighborhoods with low crime rates and good school systems, set a budget that aligns with your financial criteria, and create a list of must-have features for your dream home.

Regularly assess your progress and adjust your actions as needed to stay aligned with your criteria. Remember, criteria are not set in stone—they can evolve as you grow and your priorities shift.

By eliciting and integrating your criteria, you’re taking concrete steps toward achieving your dream life. They provide a practical framework for turning your values into tangible outcomes, ensuring that your actions are aligned with your deepest desires.

💪 MEDITATION OF VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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Preparing Your Mind
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Find a quiet and comfortable space where you can be uninterrupted for the next few minutes. Take a few deep breaths, inhaling slowly through your nose and exhaling gently through your mouth. Allow your body and mind to relax, letting go of any tension or distractions.

Eliciting Your Core Values
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As you breathe and relax, bring your attention to the concept of values. Ask yourself:

  • What matters most to you in life?
  • What principles or standards do you strive to live by?
  • When do you feel most fulfilled and alive?
  • What qualities do you admire and respect in others?
  • What do you spend most of your time and energy on?

Exploring Deeper Values
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Once you have elicited value such as integrity ask yourself: “What will having integrity allow you to be or experience?” What’s important about integrity

Listen for the answers that arise from within. They may include values such as integrity, kindness, courage, growth, family, or any other principles that resonate deeply with you.

Imagine each value as a shining star in the night sky. Some stars may shine brighter than others, indicating their importance and influence in your life. Notice the warmth and strength that these values bring to your being.

Establishing a Hierarchy
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Now, let’s organize these values into a hierarchy, reflecting their relative importance to you. Ask yourself: “Which values are my top priorities? Which ones guide my decisions and actions most strongly?”

Arrange these values in a hierarchical order, with the most important value at the top. For example, your hierarchy might look like this:

  1. Integrity
  2. Courage
  3. Kindness
  4. Growth
  5. Family

Visualize this hierarchy as a ladder, with each value representing a step towards your highest self. Recognize that these values are unique to you and provide direction in your life.

Rearranging Your Values
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Consider Trade-Offs: As you rearrange your values, reflect on the trade-offs you might be willing to make. For example, if “freedom” is rated higher than “financial stability,” you may be willing to sacrifice some financial security for the sake of having more freedom in your life. Understanding these trade-offs can provide valuable insights when making difficult decisions.

Review and Revise: Periodically review and revise your values hierarchy. As you grow and evolve, your values may shift, and that’s okay! Life experiences, new perspectives, and changing priorities can all influence how you rate and arrange your values.

Eliciting Criteria for Each Value
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For each value in your hierarchy, let’s explore the criteria that will help you live in alignment with them. Ask yourself: “What specific actions or behaviors will demonstrate my commitment to this value?”

For instance, if “integrity” is at the top of your hierarchy, your criteria might include always speaking the truth, being honest with yourself and others, and standing up for what you believe in. If “courage” is important to you, your criteria could involve facing your fears, taking risks, and embracing new challenges.

Imagine yourself embodying each value and taking actions that fulfill the associated criteria. See yourself living a life that honors these principles and brings you a sense of authenticity and fulfillment.

Integrating Your Values into Your Life
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Now, reflect on how you can integrate these values and their criteria into your daily life. Ask yourself: “How can I bring more of these values into my thoughts, words, and actions?”

Perhaps it’s about making more conscious choices that align with your values. It could be setting boundaries to honor your integrity or taking brave steps toward your dreams to embody courage. Visualize yourself taking these actions and feeling a sense of purpose and alignment.

Reflection
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Before concluding this meditation, take a moment to review your values hierarchy and the criteria associated with each value. See them as a compass that guides your path forward. Trust that by living in alignment with these values, you will create a life of authenticity, meaning, and positive impact.

Open your eyes when you’re ready, feeling empowered and inspired to live a life that reflects your core values and criteria. May your values illuminate your path and bring you closer to your true self and your dreams.

▶️ VIDEO OF VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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▶️ NLP Techniques Values Elicitation Demonstration

❓ FAQ OF VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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Q: What are values, and why are they important?

A: Values are the fundamental principles, beliefs, and qualities that guide our decisions, actions, and behaviors. They provide a compass for our lives, helping us determine what is important and worth pursuing. Identifying our values allows us to live with purpose, integrity, and authenticity. Our values influence our relationships, career choices, and how we contribute to the world.

Q: How do I identify my core values?

A: Identifying your core values involves a process of self-reflection and exploration. Start by asking yourself what matters most to you in life. What principles do you strive to live by? When do you feel most fulfilled and alive? By reflecting on these questions and examining your beliefs, priorities, and experiences, you can uncover your core values. Techniques such as journaling, meditation, and values elicitation exercises can also help in this discovery process.

Q: Why is it important to rate my values?

A: Rating your values helps you establish a hierarchy of importance. It allows you to prioritize and focus on the values that matter most to you. By assigning ratings, you can gain clarity on which values are non-negotiable and which ones you can be more flexible with. Rating your values also helps you understand your priorities and make decisions that align with your true self.

Q: How do I rate my values?

A: Rating your values involves assigning a numerical value or ranking them in order of importance. Start by listing your identified values and then assigning a rating to each one. You can use a scale of 1 to 10 or any other range that feels comfortable. Reflect on the relative importance of each value and adjust the ratings accordingly. Trust your intuition and inner wisdom during this process.

Q: What are the criteria, and how do they relate to my values?

A: Criteria are the specific indicators, behaviors, or outcomes that demonstrate your commitment to your values. They are the tangible measures that show you’re living in alignment with your values. For example, if one of your values is “health,” your criteria might include regular exercise, nutritious eating habits, and adequate sleep. Criteria provide a framework for evaluating your actions and choices, ensuring they are consistent with your values.

Q: How do I elicit criteria for each value?

A: To elicit criteria for each value, ask yourself: “What specific actions or behaviors will demonstrate my commitment to this value?” Consider the tangible ways you can live and embody each value. For instance, if “kindness” is one of your values, your criteria might include performing random acts of kindness, offering support to others, or volunteering for a cause you care about.

Q: How often should I review and revise my values and criteria?

A: It’s beneficial to periodically review and revise your values and criteria. Life is a journey of growth and change, and your values may evolve as you gain new experiences and perspectives. Set aside time, perhaps once or twice a year, to reflect on your values and criteria. Ask yourself if they still resonate with you and make any necessary adjustments. This ensures that your values remain relevant and aligned with your true self throughout your life’s journey.

😆 JOKES ABOUT VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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  • Me during value elicitation: “So, what exactly is the purpose of this meeting again?” Me during self-value elicitation: “Wait, I have a purpose?”
  • Why do I need a fancy term for my indecisiveness? Can’t we just call it ’excessive criteria refinement’?
  • Just spent two hours in a meeting debating the color of the loading bar. This is why we can’t have nice things.
  • My spirit animal during self-value elicitation? That squirrel with a million half-finished nut stashes.
  • Dating profile complete! ‘Looking for someone who appreciates my strong opinions… especially on the best pizza toppings.’
  • Sure, I can define my ideal job. Unlimited coffee, minimal responsibility, and the ability to nap under the desk. Is that asking too much?
  • The only thing harder than finding your core values is explaining them to your family at Thanksgiving dinner.
  • Self-help tip: If you can’t decide between two options, flip a coin. Then spend the next hour agonizing over what the coin meant.
  • Therapist: “So, what are your life goals?” Me: “Honestly, just to get through this session without crying.”
  • Me during self-value elicitation: “Is ‘avoiding adulting’ a valid core value?”
  • Dating app bio update: “Swipe right if you appreciate my impeccable taste in pajamas and questionable life choices.”
  • My brain during self-reflection: “Okay, you’re a mess. But hey, at least you can laugh at yourself! Right?”
  • “Just discovered a new core value: the unwavering belief that tomorrow is the perfect day to start that project.”

🦋 METAPHORS ABOUT VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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Unearthing Treasures:

  • Value elicitation is like archaeology, uncovering the buried foundations that shape your decisions.
  • Self-reflection is like sifting through a riverbed, searching for the golden nuggets of your core principles.

Navigation & Exploration:

  • Your values are the compass guiding you through the uncharted territory of life’s choices.
  • Criteria are the landmarks on your map, helping you navigate towards your desired destination.

Construction & Design:

  • Defining your values is like laying the foundation for a sturdy and purposeful life.
  • Criteria are the building blocks you use to construct the ideal version of yourself or your project.

Light & Clarity:

  • Value elicitation is like turning on a light in a dark room, illuminating the path ahead.
  • Clear criteria are like a sharpened lens, allowing you to see opportunities and challenges with greater focus.

Growth & Cultivation:

  • Your values are the seeds from which your future decisions and actions will blossom.
  • Criteria are the fertilizer that nourishes those seeds, helping them grow into something strong and meaningful.

Harmony & Balance:

  • Aligning your values and criteria is like creating a beautiful symphony, where all the elements work together in harmony.
  • Finding the right balance between values and criteria is like achieving equilibrium on a tightrope.

Discovery & Unveiling:

  • Value elicitation is like peeling back the layers of an onion, revealing your core motivations and beliefs.
  • Self-discovery is like unveiling a hidden masterpiece that was always within you.

📚 RESOURCES OF VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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@book Andreas, Connirae; Andreas, Tamara (1994). Core transformation: reaching the wellspring within. Moab, Utah: Real People Press. ISBN 0-911226-32-X

@book Steve Andreas, 2002; Transform Your Self: Becoming Who You Want to be: Becoming Who You Want to Be ISBN 978-0911226430

@book George Lakoff & Mark Johnson, 1980; Metaphors We Live By ISBN 978-0226468013

@book Steve @ Connirae Andreas, 1988; Change Your Mind and Keep the Change: Advanced NLP Submodalities Interventions ISBN 978-0911226294

@abook Robbins, A., 1991; Awaken The Giant Within ISBN 978-0671791544

@video Core transformation The Full 3-Day Workshop on Streaming video

@video DVD Transforming yourself Complete 3-day Training with Steve Andreas

@link The Wholeness Work

@link Core Transformation

🧑‍🦲 VLADIMIR KLIMSA EXPERIENCE WITH VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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“Dating app bio complete! ‘Looking for someone who appreciates my sarcasm and questionable life choices.’” - Uknown

I have read books, watched videos, attended seminars, and practiced on myself and others. My interest in VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA arose from searching for reliable techniques that I could use to improve my life and life of others. I learned NLP techniques in NLP seminars, gathering, from friends, books, articles, and video and audio courses. I have practiced with myself and others and I can say my overall experience is good. The core transformation process is based on discovering core values. The kinesthetic sensation is the one of most valuable techniques I come across. I do recommend that you search for a practitioner who has knowledge, skills, experience, and elegance for your first session.

✏️ CONCLUSION OF VALUES FIRST! UNCOVER YOUR CORE PRINCIPLES & SELECTION CRITERIA
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Value and criteria elicitation is a powerful process that enables individuals to discover their core principles, priorities, and standards for living a meaningful life. By exploring their beliefs, experiences, and emotions, individuals can identify their fundamental values, which serve as a compass for their decisions and actions. Rating values and eliciting criteria further enhance this process by providing clarity, direction, and tangible measures for living a life aligned with one’s true self. Through self-reflection, exploration, and a willingness to embrace authenticity, individuals can embark on a transformative journey, making choices that honor their deepest values and creating a life of purpose, fulfillment, and positive impact. Ultimately, value and criteria elicitation empowers people to live with integrity, passion, and a deep sense of self-awareness, fostering personal growth and a more meaningful existence.

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