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Vlad | Mentalist | Modeller | Handicapper
Vlad | Mentalist | Modeller | Handicapper
He is an explorer of the structure of subjective experience, seeking a deeper understanding of how people experience the world through their conscious and subconscious minds. He studies the inner worlds of thoughts, feelings, and sensations that shape our perceptions, behaviors, and choices.
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“Tried to connect with my teenager this morning. Got a grunt and a slammed door. #ConnectionFailed” - Anonymous


This abstract highlights the importance of fostering connections to leverage available resources effectively. Connection empowers individuals and communities, fostering innovation, knowledge sharing, and resource optimization. Conversely, disconnection leads to knowledge silos, resource hoarding, and missed opportunities. By recognizing the power of connection, we can harness the collective potential of our resources and create a more collaborative and prosperous future.


“Online dating is great! Now I can experience the joy of rejection from the comfort of my couch.” - Uknown

Benefits of Connection

  • Knowledge Sharing and Innovation: Connected individuals and organizations can share knowledge, exchange ideas, and collaborate on innovative projects. This collective intelligence accelerates problem-solving, fosters creativity, and drives progress in various fields.

  • Resource Optimization: Connections allow for the efficient utilization of resources. By sharing resources, skills, and expertise, individuals and communities can optimize their potential, fill gaps, and achieve more together than in isolation.

  • Support Systems: Connections provide emotional and practical support systems. Individuals can seek advice, receive mentorship, and gain access to opportunities through their network. This sense of belonging and social support is essential for overall well-being and resilience.

The Dangers of Disconnection

Disconnection, on the other hand, can lead to a host of issues, including resource hoarding, knowledge silos, and missed opportunities for collaboration and innovation.

  • Knowledge Silos: Disconnection can result in knowledge silos, where information and expertise are concentrated within specific individuals or groups, hindering progress and innovation. This lack of knowledge sharing can lead to inefficiencies and duplication of efforts.

  • Resource Hoarding: In a state of disconnection, individuals or organizations may hoard resources out of fear or a sense of scarcity. This hoarding mentality can lead to unequal distribution of resources, creating imbalances and hindering collective growth.

  • Missed Opportunities: Disconnection can result in missed opportunities for collaboration, innovation, and problem-solving. When individuals or organizations operate in isolation, they limit their exposure to diverse perspectives and potential partnerships, hindering their ability to create synergistic solutions.


The need for connection is deeply rooted in mammal biology and evolution. As social creatures, mammals have an innate drive to form bonds and relationships within their groups. This connection serves an important evolutionary purpose - it improves survival and reproduction.

In mammals like apes and elephants, social connection is seen through behaviors like grooming, playing, and food sharing. Strong social bonds are critical for rearing offspring successfully. Mammals also exhibit “separation distress” when isolated from their group, indicating a neural need for social connection.

Humans have evolved an even greater capacity for social connection due to our highly developed limbic system, the emotional center of the brain. Studies show that humans intrinsically crave belongingness and suffer mentally and physically without meaningful connections.

Human connection is built through eye contact, conversation, physical touch, empathy, and companionship. Our brains release hormones like oxytocin to reward us for connecting. Close supportive relationships have been shown to reduce stress, improve health, and extend lifespan.

The human drive to form social bonds exists as an adaptive trait selected over millions of years of evolution. Our brains are wired to seek connection, equating it with survival and well-being. Disconnection causes distress, while the connection is a source of comfort, meaning, and flourishing.

Expression of Connection Across Cultures

India and China

  • In India and China, connection and community are deeply rooted in ancient philosophies such as Hinduism and Buddhism. These cultures emphasize the interconnectedness of all beings and promote compassion and respect for others.
    • Greetings: Indians often greet each other with a warm “Namaste,” bringing their palms together in a prayer-like gesture. This greeting acknowledges the divine spark in each person and conveys respect and goodwill. Chinese individuals may greet each other with a slight bow, showing respect and humility.
    • Hospitality: Both cultures are known for their generous hospitality. Offering food and drinks to guests is a common way to express connection and build relationships. Hosting guests and sharing meals is considered an honor, and it strengthens social bonds.
    • In China, connection manifests through concepts like guanxi building relationships and ren for empathy. Yin and yang symbolize interconnected opposites.
    • Festivals and Celebrations: India and China boast a plethora of vibrant festivals that bring communities together. Festivals like Diwali (Festival of Lights) in India and Chinese New Year celebrations create a sense of unity and connection as people come together to participate in rituals, exchange gifts, and enjoy festive meals.

Africa and Europe

  • African and European cultures also have unique ways of expressing connection, often influenced by their diverse histories and traditions.
    • Physical Expressions: In many African cultures, physical touch plays a significant role in expressing connection. Greetings may involve a warm embrace, a handshake, or even holding hands as a sign of friendship and solidarity. Europeans also value physical greetings, with customs varying across regions, from cheek kisses to friendly hugs.
    • Ubuntu in southern Africa embodies connection, meaning “I am because we are.” The greater community is valued over the individual.
    • Community Gatherings: In African communities, storytelling, music, and dance have long been used to bring people together. Gatherings around the campfire, cultural performances, and community festivals create a sense of connection and preserve cultural heritage. Europeans also have a rich history of community gatherings, from village markets to town hall meetings, where people connect, discuss local issues, and celebrate shared traditions.
    • The ancient Greeks valued civic participation and debate. In Scandinavia, the Law of Jante discourages standing apart from the whole.
    • Cuisine and Hospitality: Across Africa and Europe, sharing meals is a common way to express connection. Inviting someone to your home for a meal is considered an act of warmth and hospitality. African and European cuisines also showcase their cultural diversity, and sharing these culinary delights fosters connection and an appreciation for different traditions.


  • In Alaska, the indigenous cultures have a deep connection to the land and nature, which influences their expression of connection.
    • Respect for Nature: Alaskan indigenous cultures, such as the Inuit and Athabaskan, have a profound respect for the natural world. They believe in maintaining a harmonious relationship with the land, animals, and the spiritual realm. This connection to nature is a vital aspect of their cultural identity and sense of community.
    • Storytelling and Oral Traditions: Storytelling plays a significant role in Alaskan indigenous cultures. Stories are used to teach values, explain the world, and connect individuals to their ancestral roots. Elders are highly respected for their knowledge and wisdom, and they pass down traditions and cultural heritage through oral traditions.
    • Art and Crafts: Alaskan indigenous peoples are known for their unique art forms, including carving, weaving, and beadwork. These crafts often carry symbolic meanings and are used to create traditional clothing, tools, and decorative items. The creation and exchange of these artworks foster a sense of community and connection to their cultural heritage.

United States of America

  • In the United States, a country built on a diverse range of cultural influences, expressions of connection vary across regions and communities but often reflect a blend of traditional and modern customs.
    • Greetings: Americans are known for their friendly and casual greetings. A warm smile, a firm handshake, or a friendly “Hello!” are common ways to initiate connections. Depending on the region, you may encounter more informal greetings like “Howdy” or “Hey, y’all.”
    • Individualism and Community: American culture often emphasizes individualism, but community connections are also highly valued. Volunteering, participating in local events, and engaging in community organizations are common ways Americans connect and contribute to society.
    • Social Gatherings: Americans often express connection through social gatherings, whether it’s hosting a barbecue in the backyard, tailgating at a sports event, or organizing potluck dinners. Sharing meals and celebrating together are integral parts of American culture.

Latin America

  • Latin America, with its vibrant and diverse cultures, has a strong emphasis on family, community, and emotional expression.
    • Greetings and Physical Affection: Latin Americans are generally warm and affectionate in their greetings. It is common to greet friends and family with a hug, a kiss on the cheek, or a friendly pat on the back. This physical connection extends to conversations, where people may stand closer and use more expressive body language.
    • Family and Community: Family plays a central role in Latin American culture, and connections often extend beyond immediate relatives. Large family gatherings, celebrations, and a strong sense of community are prevalent. Latin Americans are known for their hospitality and the importance they place on making others feel welcome.
    • Music and Dance: Music and dance are integral parts of Latin American culture and bring people together. From lively salsa dancing in Colombia to the passionate tango in Argentina, music creates a sense of connection and joy within communities.


  • Australian culture, influenced by its unique geography and diverse population, has developed its distinct expressions of connection.
    • Mate-ship and Equality: Australians are known for their laid-back and egalitarian culture. Mateship, a unique Australian concept, emphasizes equality, loyalty, and mutual respect among friends and peers. It transcends social boundaries and fosters a sense of connection and support.
    • Outdoor Lifestyle: Australians value their connection to the land and the outdoors. Barbecues, beach gatherings, and camping trips are common ways for Australians to connect and socialize. Spending time in nature and enjoying outdoor activities together is an integral part of Australian culture.
    • Coffee and Cafe Culture: Australia has a vibrant coffee culture, and cafes play a significant role in social connections. Catching up with friends over a cup of coffee or enjoying a leisurely brunch is a popular way for Australians to foster relationships and build community.

Universal Language of Connection

Despite cultural differences, the desire for connection transcends boundaries. Expressions of connection, whether through greetings, hospitality, celebrations, or respect for nature, are universal in their intent – to foster a sense of belonging and unity. Cultural backgrounds may vary, but the underlying need for human connection remains a fundamental aspect of the human experience, enriching our lives and shaping our societies.


  • Sitting by side so you can perceive nuances in facial expression, gestures, and coloration of the skin and not stay in the way of a client who is accessing their images and creating metaphors in front of them.
  • Modulate your voice and speak slowly and melodically.
  • Be interested in client exploration.
  • Repeat the client’s words using his voice delivery. For instance, when the client spoke about an exciting event, his face lightened up, his words speeded up and his tone of voice was higher. As a professional, you are, to match his expression or attend acting class to learn essentials.
  • Connect the question and experience with coordinating conjunction and/as/when.


“My phone died. Now I have to rely on my actual personality for conversation. Wish me luck.” - *Unknown"

Vlad: “Hello, What can I do for you today?”

Client: “I want to change my fear of public speaking as I’ll be giving an important presentation in weeks to come.”

Vlad: “Can you tell me a bit more about what happens when you have to give a presentation?”

Client: “My heart starts racing, my palms get sweaty, and my voice cracks. I feel like everyone’s judging me, and my mind goes blank. It’s horrible!”

Vlad: Public speaking can be nerve-wracking for many people. swish-technique I would like you to remember public speaking, seeing your hands through your eyes. That’ll be our first image. Think about something you can do well. While seeing yourself you know that you possess this knowledge, experiences, and skills, even though you might not be doing this activity in this representation. Imagine yourself as a person who isn’t bothered about talking in public anymore. You have the learnings, choices, and means and it isn’t an issue anymore. Make the movie juicy and add some sprinkles. Charge this movie into a catapult at a distance which will throw it in the center of your fear movie presentation and break it into pieces so what remains will be you capable and glowing.

Client: Alright, I see myself now. I’m standing confidently. I feel calm and in control.

Vlad: Great! Now, here comes the “Swish.” With a quick “whoosh” sound in your mind, liberate the catapult and swiftly switch the two movies. Let the Fear movie break into tiny little pieces as the vibrant, full-color movie of your capable takes its place. Feel the positive emotions of your desired outcome flooding your being.

(Whoosh sound effect)

Client: Wow, that felt powerful! The picture of me feeling anxious just vanished, and now the capable image is filling my mind.

Vlad: Excellent. Let’s charge the catapult again and replace the movies very quickly. And again, and again, and again, and again.

Client: I feel much calmer and more capable already.

Vlad: Wonderful. Now, slowly bring your awareness back to your breath. Take a few more deep breaths, integrating this positive state into your being.

Client: Thank you, this was helpful!

Vlad: “The experience will last. And you can apply it to other different assortments of behaviors. To connect deeply you might consider the Core transformation method by Connirae Andreas. Allow me to guide you in the next 30 minutes.”

Client: “Ok. Let’s go for it.”

Core Transformation

Client: “Something had changed. I can feel more relaxed now and connected with my inner me. Thanks very much.”

Vlad: “You are welcome. From the state of deep connection that radiates through, transforms, and enriches your initial feeling. How do you feel about yourself now and in the future?”

Client: “I am my body and my body is me. I am in a relationship with everyone and this relationship starts with me. I have changed. Thanks very much.”

Vlad: “That’s good to hear. Good luck.”


Submodalities refer to the specific qualities and characteristics that shape our sensory representations of experiences, including those related to connection and disconnection.

Compare Connection and disconnection and find out which state is more empowering and offers more resources. Decide for yourself in which state you want to be while dealing with your relationships.

Visual Submodalities:

  • Connection: Bright, vibrant colors. Images are clear, sharp, and focused. Visual submodalities associated with connection often involve seeing people or environments filled with warmth and positivity. Images may include smiling faces, open body language, and welcoming gestures. Visual representations are typically dynamic and fluid, indicating movement and interaction.
  • Disconnection: Dull, muted colors or monochromatic tones. Images may appear blurry, fuzzy, or distant. Visual submodalities of disconnection can include solitary figures, closed-body postures, or people turning away from each other. Static or stagnant imagery may be present, conveying a sense of isolation or detachment.

Auditory Submodalities:

  • Connection: Auditory submodalities of connection are typically associated with pleasant, harmonious sounds. Voices are clear, warm, and inviting. Laughter, friendly conversations, and supportive words are common. The volume is moderate to loud, indicating engagement and interaction. Rhythm and tempo are steady and consistent.
  • Disconnection: Harsh, discordant sounds or silence may be present. Voices may sound distant, cold, or indifferent. Auditory submodalities of disconnection can include negative self-talk, critical or judgmental statements, or the absence of vocal expressions. Volume may be low or inaudible, suggesting withdrawal or disengagement.

Kinesthetic Submodalities:

  • Connection: Warm, soft, and comfortable physical sensations. Kinesthetic submodalities of connection often involve feelings of openness, expansion, and ease in the body. Embraces, gentle touches, or a sense of physical warmth may be present. Emotional states associated with connection include love, joy, and peace, leading to a sense of physical and emotional balance.
  • Disconnection: Tense, tight, or constricted bodily sensations. Kinesthetic submodalities of disconnection may include feelings of heaviness, numbness, or physical discomfort. Disconnection can lead to a sense of physical isolation, detachment from the body, or a lack of awareness of bodily cues. Emotional states may include sadness, loneliness, or anger.

Olfactory and Gustatory Submodalities (Smell and Taste):

  • Connection: Pleasant aromas or tastes that evoke positive memories or associations. The smell of freshly baked cookies, the scent of a loved one’s perfume, or the taste of a comforting meal can trigger feelings of connection and warmth.
  • Disconnection: Unpleasant or neutral smells and tastes. Disconnection may be associated with a lack of sensory engagement or the presence of unpleasant sensory stimuli, such as bitter tastes or foul odors.

Cognitive Submodalities:

  • Connection: Positive, supportive, and encouraging self-talk. Internal dialogue is constructive and affirming, promoting a sense of self-worth and value. Thoughts are typically future-oriented, focusing on possibilities and shared goals.
  • Disconnection: Negative, critical, or judgmental self-talk. Internal dialogue may be harsh, dismissive, or filled with self-doubt. Thoughts may be past-oriented, fixated on failures or disappointments, and tend to be self-limiting or isolating.

Temporal Submodalities (Time Perspective):

  • Connection: A sense of presence and engagement in the here and now. Connection often involves a balanced perspective on time, with an ability to be mindful and appreciate the present moment while also planning for the future.
  • Disconnection: A feeling of being trapped in the past or excessively focused on the future. Disconnection may involve dwelling on past regrets or worrying excessively about the future, leading to a sense of detachment from the present.

Spatial Submodalities:

  • Connection: Open, expansive spatial arrangement. Mental images or representations of connection often involve a sense of spaciousness, freedom, and inclusion. People are seen as moving toward each other or occupying the same physical space.
  • Disconnection: Closed, confined, or distant spatial arrangement. Mental representations of disconnection may involve people turning away from each other, creating physical or mental barriers, or occupying separate, isolated spaces.


Preparing the Mind

As you settle into a comfortable position, begin to focus on your breath. Notice the rise and fall of your chest, the air moving in and out of your nostrils. Allow your eyes to close gently, creating a sense of inner calm. With each breath, let go of any tension or distractions, bringing your awareness fully into the present moment.

Visual Submodalities

Visualize a vibrant, colorful garden filled with lush greenery and blooming flowers. Imagine walking through this garden, noticing the bright hues and the gentle sunlight filtering through. See the beauty in every detail, from the delicate petals to the shimmering dewdrops. As you wander, feel a sense of connection to nature, appreciating the life and vibrancy that surrounds you.

Now, contrast this with a vision of disconnection. Imagine a monochrome landscape, devoid of color and life. Picture a solitary figure standing in a barren field, their back turned, surrounded by dull, gray hues. Notice how this image makes you feel, recognizing the sense of isolation and detachment it conveys.

Auditory Submodalities

Listen to the soothing sounds of a gentle breeze rustling through the leaves. Hear the distant chirping of birds, the soft rustle of grass, and the peaceful silence in between. Imagine the sounds of nature embracing you, creating a sense of calm and connection to the natural world.

Contrast this with the auditory submodalities of disconnection. Imagine being in a crowded room, filled with loud, chaotic noises. Hear the disjointed conversations, the clatter of dishes, and the overwhelming hum of voices. Notice how the sounds create a sense of confusion and disconnection, making it difficult to find peace or focus.

Kinesthetic Submodalities

Focus on the physical sensations in your body. Feel the softness of your clothing against your skin, the firmness of the ground beneath you, and the gentle rise and fall of your chest with each breath. Imagine a warm, gentle breeze caressing your skin, bringing a sense of relaxation and openness. Experience the comfort and ease in your body, allowing any tension to melt away.

Now, shift your attention to kinesthetic submodalities of disconnection. Imagine yourself enclosed in a tight, restrictive space, feeling confined and constricted. Notice the tension in your body, the heaviness in your limbs, and the sense of physical isolation. Experience the discomfort and sense of disconnection from your physical self.

Olfactory and Gustatory Submodalities

Bring to mind a pleasant memory associated with a specific aroma. It could be the scent of freshly baked bread, the fragrance of a favorite flower, or the smell of rain on dry ground. Allow the memory to evoke a sense of warmth and connection to cherished moments.

In contrast, think of a time when you experienced a strong sense of disconnection. Is there a particular smell or taste associated with that memory? Perhaps the bitter taste of disappointment or the stale smell of loneliness. Notice how these sensory stimuli influence your emotional state.

Cognitive and Temporal Submodalities

Tune into your inner dialogue and the thoughts that arise. Notice any self-talk that reflects connection and compassion. Imagine sending kind and supportive thoughts to yourself and others, fostering a sense of unity and understanding. Visualize a future filled with meaningful connections and positive relationships.

Now, shift your attention to thoughts of disconnection. Observe any critical or judgmental self-talk that may arise. Recognize how these thoughts create a sense of separation and isolation. Practice letting go of limiting beliefs and instead, focus on the present moment, embracing the here and now.

Spatial Submodalities

Imagine yourself in a vast, open field, surrounded by nature. Feel the expansiveness and freedom of the space around you. Visualize yourself moving through this space with ease, embracing the openness and the sense of connection to your surroundings.

In contrast, imagine yourself in a confined, enclosed space, with limited movement. Notice the sense of restriction and disconnection that arises. Reflect on how your spatial environment influences your feelings of connection or isolation.


As you bring this meditation to a close, gently open your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Reflect on the journey through the submodalities of connection and disconnection. Notice how your sensory experiences and mental representations influence your emotional state and perception of the world. Carry this awareness with you, cultivating a deeper sense of connection in your daily life.


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Connection and Disconnection: Understanding the Impact

  • What is the main difference between connection and disconnection?

    • The key distinction lies in the positive or negative impact on individuals and communities. Connection fosters a sense of belonging, collaboration, and mutual support, leading to personal growth and collective advancement. Disconnection, on the other hand, creates isolation, hinders knowledge sharing, and can lead to resource hoarding and missed opportunities.
  • How do connection and disconnection influence personal well-being?

    • Connection is essential for our social and emotional well-being. It provides a sense of belonging, enhances self-esteem, and promotes resilience. Disconnection, conversely, can lead to loneliness, depression, and a lack of purpose. Strong connections contribute to a healthier and more fulfilling life.
  • What are some signs of disconnection?

    • Signs of disconnection can include social withdrawal, feelings of loneliness or isolation, difficulty trusting others, lack of empathy, and a sense of alienation from one’s community or surroundings. Recognizing these signs is important to address and overcome feelings of disconnection.

Benefits of Connection

  • Why is connection important for personal growth?

    • Connection exposes us to diverse perspectives, challenging our own beliefs and encouraging personal development. Through connection, we gain access to shared knowledge, resources, and experiences, fostering creativity, innovation, and a broader worldview.
  • How does connection enhance collaboration and problem-solving?

    • Connection facilitates the exchange of ideas, skills, and expertise. By working together, individuals can leverage their strengths and overcome challenges more effectively. Collaboration fosters a sense of shared purpose and enables collective problem-solving, leading to innovative solutions and mutual growth.
  • In what ways can connection improve emotional well-being?

    • Connection provides a sense of belonging and support, reducing feelings of loneliness and isolation. Social connections offer comfort, encouragement, and a sense of security during difficult times. Strong connections also enhance emotional intelligence, empathy, and self-awareness.

Dangers of Disconnection

  • What are the potential consequences of disconnection in society?

    • Disconnection can lead to the breakdown of social cohesion, hindering community development and creating social inequality. It may result in the formation of echo chambers, reinforcing existing biases and limiting exposure to diverse viewpoints. Disconnection can also contribute to the spread of misinformation and hinder collective action on important social issues.
  • How does disconnection impact knowledge sharing and innovation?

    • Disconnection creates knowledge silos, where information and expertise are concentrated within specific groups or individuals. This hinders the dissemination of knowledge, stifles innovation, and limits access to valuable insights. Collaboration and cross-fertilization of ideas become challenging, hindering progress and problem-solving.
  • What are the effects of disconnection on mental health?

    • Prolonged disconnection can contribute to various mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, and social phobia. Lack of social interaction and support can lead to feelings of loneliness, low self-esteem, and a sense of isolation. Disconnection can also exacerbate existing mental health conditions and hinder access to necessary support systems.

Cultivating Connection

  • How can individuals foster meaningful connections in their lives?

    • Individuals can cultivate connections by actively engaging with their community, joining social groups or clubs, and participating in activities they enjoy with others. Building connections can also be achieved through open and honest communication, expressing vulnerability, and showing genuine interest in others.
  • What role does technology play in fostering connection or contributing to disconnection?

    • Technology can be a double-edged sword. It enables global connections, facilitates knowledge sharing, and breaks down geographical barriers. However, excessive reliance on technology can lead to superficial online connections, distraction, and a sense of isolation. Balancing online and offline interactions is crucial for maintaining meaningful connections.
  • In what ways can we address feelings of disconnection and promote connection instead?

    • Recognizing and addressing feelings of disconnection is important. Individuals can reach out to loved ones, engage in social activities, practice active listening, and offer support to others. Volunteering, joining community initiatives, and seeking professional help if needed can also help combat feelings of disconnection.


  • Just realized my goldfish is the only living creature who makes eye contact with me anymore. Maybe I should get him a social media account.
  • Tried online meditation for “inner peace.” Turns out, my inner self just wants to argue with internet strangers all day.
  • My dating profile says “looking for someone to connect with.” My browsing history says “looking for someone who delivers pizza at 2 am.”
  • My social battery is like a newborn baby: needs constant attention and drains me completely. #IntrovertStruggles
  • Just saw a couple holding hands while walking. They haven’t discovered the wonders of pocket wifi yet.
  • My phone died on a hike. Suddenly, the beauty of nature seemed a lot less beautiful and a lot more full of spiders.
  • Tried using carrier pigeons to connect with a friend who lives off the grid. Turns out, pigeons judge you for your terrible handwriting.
  • My love life is like dial-up internet: slow, frustrating, and constantly making that annoying screeching noise.
  • Just joined a “Silence Retreat.” Turns out, being completely alone with your thoughts is a great way to discover all the weird things you talk to yourself about.
  • My apartment building has a “community garden.” The only thing growing there is resentment between neighbors who water their basil at the wrong time.
  • Started a book club to meet new people. Turns out, the only thing worse than being alone is being trapped in a room with people who think “50 Shades of Grey” is classic literature.
  • My smartwatch keeps reminding me to “be active.” Maybe it should remind me to “be social” instead.
  • Tried using dating apps to connect with someone who shares my love of puns. So far, I’ve just gotten a lot of groans and unmatches.
  • Got a fortune cookie that said: “Strong connections will bring you joy.” The next cookie said: “Free wifi available for a limited time.” #PrioritiesStraight
  • Headlines: “New study finds social media both connects and isolates people.” #Duh


  • Strong connections are like the roots of a tree: anchoring you in place, providing support, and allowing you to weather any storm. Disconnection, however, is like a wilting flower: beautiful on the surface, but lacking the strength to thrive.
  • A community is like a vibrant tapestry: woven together with threads of different colors and textures, creating something beautiful and strong. Disconnection leaves you with a single, lonely thread, offering little warmth or protection.
  • A meaningful conversation is like a campfire: crackling with warmth, illuminating the darkness, and drawing people closer together. Disconnection is like a cold, flickering candle, providing little light and offering no sense of community.
  • A supportive network is like a safety net at the circus: catching you when you take a risk and encouraging you to reach for new heights. Disconnection is like a tightrope without a net, leaving you vulnerable and afraid to take a chance.
  • A healthy debate is like a blacksmith’s forge: sparks fly as ideas are hammered out, ultimately creating something stronger and more refined. Disconnection is like a rusty, unused sword, dulled by neglect and offering no defense.
  • A good mentor is like a lighthouse: guiding you through rough seas and illuminating the path towards success. Disconnection is like being lost in a fog, unsure of your direction, and vulnerable to unseen dangers.
  • Learning from others is like a garden: each interaction plants a seed of knowledge that can grow and blossom into something new. Disconnection is like barren soil, offering no opportunity for growth or intellectual exploration.
  • Sharing a burden with a friend is like dividing a heavy load: making it easier to carry and offering a sense of shared responsibility. Disconnection leaves you to bear the weight alone, feeling overwhelmed and unsupported.
  • Celebrating a victory with loved ones is like adding another layer to a cake: each layer builds upon the last, creating a shared experience that is sweeter with each addition. Disconnection offers no one to share your triumphs, leaving them hollow victories.
  • A healthy romantic relationship is like a dance: two partners moving in sync, supporting each other, and creating a beautiful performance together. Disconnection is like a solo dance performed in the dark, lacking rhythm, connection, and joy.
  • Active listening is like a fertile field: attentively receiving others’ words and allowing seeds of empathy and understanding to take root. Disconnection is like barren ground, offering no nourishment for meaningful relationships.
  • A shared experience is like a photograph capturing a special moment: a tangible reminder of the connection and emotions shared with others. Disconnection leaves no record, no memory, and no reminder of the time spent together.
  • Forgiveness is like a cleansing rain: washing away anger and resentment, allowing relationships to heal and grow stronger. Disconnection is like a stagnant swamp, breeding negativity and hindering growth.
  • Trust is like a sturdy rope bridge: allowing you to venture out and explore while feeling secure and supported. Disconnection is like a rickety, broken bridge, leaving you afraid to take risks and connect with others.
  • Gratitude is like a warm hug: expressing appreciation for connections and strengthening the bonds that tie you to others. Disconnection is like a cold shoulder, leaving relationships feeling neglected and unappreciated.
  • Saying “I love you” is like painting a masterpiece: expressing your deepest feelings and creating a beautiful bond that can withstand the test of time. Disconnection leaves a blank canvas, offering no expression of love or appreciation.


@book Richard Bandler, 1992; Magic in Action ISBN 978-0916990145

@bbok Richard Bandler, 1985; Using Your Brain-For a Change: Neuro-Linguistic Programming ISBN 978-0911226270

@book George Lakoff & Mark Johnson, 1980; Metaphors We Live By ISBN 978-0226468013

@book Steve @ Connirae Andreas, 1988; Change Your Mind and Keep the Change: Advanced NLP Submodalities Interventions ISBN 978-0911226294

@Video DVD Transforming Your Self - Complete 3-day Training with Steve Andreas

@link The Wholeness Work

@link Core Transformation


“Tried to join an online forum. Turns out, the only thing less interesting than my life is everyone else’s.” - Uknown

I have read books, watched videos, attended seminars, and practiced on myself and others. My interest in THE POWER OF CONNECTION VS. THE DANGERS OF DISCONNECTION arose from searching for reliable techniques that I could use to improve my life and life of others. I learned NLP techniques in NLP seminars, gathering, from friends, books, articles, and video and audio courses. I have practiced with myself and others and I can say my overall experience is good. For some clients, I have tailored techniques. Transforming kinesthetic sensation is the one of valued techniques I come across. I have learned to welcome pains and discomforts. I do recommend that you search for a practitioner who has knowledge, skills, experience, and elegance for your first session.


In the delicate dance between connection and disconnection, humans crave both. We need time for introspection and solitude to recharge, but too much isolation leads to loneliness and a diminished sense of belonging.

The power of connection, on the other hand, is undeniable. Strong bonds with friends, family, and loved ones provide support, fuel creativity, and offer a sense of purpose. Like a vibrant tapestry woven from diverse threads, connection strengthens us and allows us to weather life’s storms.

The key is finding the right balance. Embrace the rejuvenating power of solitude, but never underestimate the transformative power of connection. Reach out, build bridges, and nurture the relationships that enrich your life. After all, a life well-lived is a tapestry woven with the threads of connection.

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