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Vlad | Mentalist | Modeller | Handicapper
Vlad | Mentalist | Modeller | Handicapper
He is an explorer of the structure of subjective experience, seeking a deeper understanding of how people experience the world through their conscious and subconscious minds. He studies the inner worlds of thoughts, feelings, and sensations that shape our perceptions, behaviors, and choices.
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“What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us.” - Henry David Thoreau


A core idea is that our sense of a separate “self” or ego is created by unconscious contractions of consciousness called “small I’s.” These exist as locations in space that can be sensed internally.

Dissolving these small I’s through a gentle process of merging them withAwareness leads to greater inner freedom, wellbeing, emotional intelligence, and ability to transform life issues.


  • Regular practice is said to increase wellbeing, emotional intelligence, creativity, inner peace, and connection with others.Transformation happens gradually through daily dissolving of unconscious limitations.
  • he Wholeness Work offers step-by-step methods for reducing inner separation and evolving consciousness, leading to greater freedom and fulfillment in life.


“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi

The small I ego is the part of our mind that identifies with our thoughts, feelings, and experiences. It is the sense of “I” that we experience as a separate individual. The small I ego is often driven by a need for approval, recognition, and significance. It can be attached to our possessions, our accomplishments, and our relationships.

The small I ego can be a useful tool for navigating the world. It can help us to protect ourselves, to achieve our goals, and to feel good about ourselves. However, the small I ego can also be a source of suffering. When we are too attached to the small I ego, we can become defensive, insecure, and afraid of failure. We can also become caught up in comparing ourselves to others and in trying to prove ourselves.

The goal of spiritual practice is to transcend the small I ego and to realize our true nature, which is oneness with all of existence. This is not to say that we should try to get rid of the small I ego altogether. The small I ego is a part of us, and it can be a valuable tool. However, we can learn to see the small I ego for what it is, and we can learn to let go of its attachments.

The separate self refers to the limited sense of identity created by unconscious structures within us. By dissolving these, we can experience more fully our true nature as unbounded awareness.

  • The ego is our sense of having a separate self or identity. It is created by unconscious contractions of our consciousness into small areas of inner space called “small I’s.” These are locations that can be detected when we bring awareness to our inner experience.

  • The small I’s represent a limited perspective - they are smaller and more restricted than our full capacity for awareness. They hold distorted or limiting beliefs about who we are, what’s possible, and how life works. These beliefs filter our perceptions and shape our feelings and behaviors.

  • When we unconsciously over-identify with the small I’s, we mistake them for the totality of who we are. We experience life through their restrictive lens rather than our fuller consciousness. This creates a feeling of separation - of being disconnected from other people, nature, and our true essence.

  • Operating from this narrow sense of self, we suffer unnecessary fear, judgment, and dissatisfaction. We relate to others and challenges reactively, without wisdom. We don’t experience the peace, creativity, and freedom that are our birthright.


  • The ego is a necessary stage of development, but not our ultimate identity. As we gradually dissolve the small I’s through spiritual practice, we integrate them back into universal awareness. We shift from ego-identification to expressing our true nature - which is unbounded, creative, and intrinsically connected to all life.

  • Though a persistent illusion, the ego’s hold on us dissipates when we bring conscious awareness to it. By becoming intimate with these unconscious structures, we can live with less suffering and more fulfillment. We awaken to our infinite potential.


  • Increased inner peace and equanimity - By dissolving unconscious tensions and identifications, people report gaining access to an inner stillness and contentment that persists amidst external chaos.

  • Enhanced wellbeing and vitality - Releasing chronic psycho-physical contractions can relieve stress, aid sleep, support immune function, and increase energy levels.

  • Greater self-knowledge - Noticing and integrating previously unconscious parts of oneself brings self-understanding and wholeness.

  • Expanded creativity - Accessing more of one’s potential unlocks new insights, perspectives, and capabilities.

  • Improved emotional intelligence - People become less reactive, more self-aware, empowered to transform triggers and express themselves skillfully.

  • Deeper connection in relationships - Practice strengthens qualities like forgiveness, empathy, vulnerability, ability to “speak one’s truth” with care.

  • Increased productivity and performance - One is able to act with less inner resistance, unencumbered by limitations. New solutions emerge.

  • Heightened senses - Without distorting filters, people report seeing, hearing, tasting more vividly. The world becomes more beautiful.

  • Greater resilience - Being less identified with changing circumstances allows one to navigate life’s difficulties with more wisdom and resources.

  • Sense of meaning and purpose - As unconscious beliefs dissolve, people gain clarity about their true values, passions, and unique contribution.

  • Awakening experiences - Some practitioners report moments of oneness, timelessness, and dissolution of egoic boundaries.

  • Ongoing evolution - Through daily practice, transformation gradually deepens over time. Suffering lessens, fulfillment grows.

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In Wholeness Work, awareness refers to the capacity to effortlessly notice whatever is happening, both internally and externally. It is the open, spacious consciousness that is always present.

Some key points about awareness:

  • Awareness is present throughout the body. We can sense and feel our whole body right now, with no effort required.

  • Awareness extends into the space all around the body. If a sound happened, we would hear it automatically without trying.

  • There is no edge or limit to awareness. We have a sense of space extending in all directions.

  • Awareness allows us to notice thoughts, feelings, sounds, sensations, etc as they arise, without any judgment. It is a mirror that reflects whatever appears without distortion.

  • Awareness is always in the present moment. It cannot be located in the past or future.

  • Awareness has no inherent meaning or interpretation. It is the direct, pre-conceptual experience.

  • Awareness is a field of pure potentiality. Any experience can arise within it and dissolve back into it.

  • Awareness is the space in which everything happens, yet it remains untouched. Like the sky, it is always open and clear.

The aim in Wholeness Work is to stabilize awareness so that we experience life from this open, undivided space rather than from a narrow sense of self. Regular practice helps develop awareness as our natural way of being.



  • Connirae Andreas is co-founder of NLP Comprehensive, renowned trainer, coach and author. Connirae Andreas, developed the Wholeness Work out of her own search for personal healing and spiritual awakening. She had already co-created a therapeutic method called Core Transformation. However, this earlier work didn’t lead to the profound shifts Connirae was looking for in her own life. She turned to exploring spirituality and had a dramatic awakening experience while working with renowned psychiatrist Milton Erickson. This glimpse of awakening faded over time. Facing a health crisis, Connirae desperately wanted to understand how to regain that state of being. She studied with spiritual teachers but found their instructions lacked precision.

  • Drawing from Erickson’s work, her background in modeling excellence, and principles of spirituality, Connirae sought to map the steps to awakening.

  • A key breakthrough was recognizing the structure of the ego/separate self as “small I’s” - locations in space that could be found through inner exploration.

  • She developed ways to dissolve these limiting identifications back into universal awareness, which reliably led to beneficial transformations. Connirae began teaching these methods, now called Wholeness Work, in 2007. She continues to refine the formats through guiding thousands of people.


  • Inner separation is the root of human suffering; reconnecting to wholeness relieves it.

  • The ego or sense of a separate self is created by contractions of consciousness called “small I’s.” These small I’s can be sensed as locations in inner space and gently dissolved back into awareness.

  • There are often multiple layers or a “nesting” of small I’s that reinforce the sense of separation.

  • The small I’s contain limiting beliefs and filters that distort our perception of reality.

  • Dissolving the small I’s allows these beliefs and distortions to unwind naturally.

  • Awareness is always already present throughout and surrounding us. It has no edges or limits.

  • This boundless awareness is sometimes visualized as a mirror reflecting everything just as it is.

  • Bringing conscious awareness to the small I’s enables them to integrate into universal awareness.

  • Integration happens through the small I’s relaxing and opening rather than any force or coercion. Each integration enriches and expands our capacity for awareness, wisdom, and inner freedom.

  • The methods emphasize inner sensations over conceptual meanings we assign experiences.

  • There are always new layers to explore; transformation unfolds gradually through regular practice.

  • The process is one of allowing and listening to our unfolding experience with caring presence.

  • All that arises is welcomed; nothing requires pushing away or holding onto.

  • Wholeness means including everything and excluding nothing in the field of awareness.


  • Sitting by side so you can perceive nuances in facial expression, gestures, coloration of the skin and not stay in the way of client who are accessing their images and creating metaphors in front of them.
  • Modulate your voice and speak slowly and melodically.
  • Be interested and curious about client exploration.
  • Repeat client’s words using his voice delivery. For instance when the client spoke about exciting event, his face lightened up, words speeded up and his tone of voice was higher. As a professional, you are, match his expression or attend acting class to learn essentials.
  • Connect the question and experience with coordinating conjunction and/as/when.


  • Facilitator: Let’s begin by choosing an issue you’d like to work with. This could be something in your life that’s bothering you or - causing stress. What comes to mind?

  • Client: I’ve been feeling really anxious about an upcoming work presentation.

  • Facilitator: OK, let’s work with the anxiety around the presentation. Take a moment to imagine you’re about to give the presentation. Notice where you feel the anxiety in your body.

  • Client: It’s in my chest, like a tight squeezed feeling.

  • Facilitator: Focus on the sensation of anxiety in your chest. Notice its size, shape, and quality. What does it feel like?

  • Client: It’s about the size of a grapefruit, round, and it feels tight, cramped, sort of suffocating.

  • Facilitator: Now notice the ‘I’ that is aware of this sensation. Where is this ‘I’ located? What is its size, shape and sensation - quality?

  • Client: The ‘I’ is a small point behind my forehead. It’s tense and tingling.

  • Facilitator: Let’s find the next ‘I’. Ask “Where is the ‘I’ that notices this tingling point?” Find its location, size, shape and - sensation.

  • Client: This second ‘I’ is further back in my head. It’s more spread out, with a smooth, slippery sensation.

  • Facilitator: Now become aware of the space around and within your body. Sense the open awareness that is always present. Check if the last ‘I’ welcomes dissolving into this awareness.

  • Client: Yes, it seems ready to open up.

  • Facilitator: Then invite it to relax and merge into the space of awareness. Allow this in a gentle, effortless way.

  • Client: It’s starting to soften and spread out.

  • Facilitator: Continue guiding each ‘I’ to dissolve, until all that remains is open awareness. Then invite the original sensation of - anxiety to dissolve. Finally, check how the issue feels now.

  • Client: Wow, I feel so much lighter and calmer. The presentation feels manageable. That was amazing!


  • Facilitator: Let’s begin by picking an issue you’d like to work with. What’s something that’s bothering you lately?

  • Client: I’ve been feeling really anxious about my finances.

  • Facilitator: Okay, let’s work with the financial anxiety. Take a moment to get in touch with this feeling. Where do you experience the anxiety in your body?

  • Client: It’s in my stomach, like a tight knot.

  • Facilitator: Focus your attention on the knot of anxiety in your stomach. Notice its size, shape and sensation quality. What does it feel and look like?

  • Client: It’s about the size of a baseball, and kind of swirling. It feels tense, churning, and acidic.

  • Facilitator: Now become aware of the “I” that notices this sensation. Where is this perceiving self located? What is its size, shape and quality?

  • Client: Hmm, it’s like a small pebble in my forehead. Dense and compact.

  • Facilitator: Let’s find the next “I.” Ask “Where is the ‘I’ that notices this pebble in my forehead?” Do this until you find between 3 to 6 perceiving selves.

  • Client: Okay, the next one is in back of my head, fuzzy and swirling. And there’s a third high above my head that’s light and airy.

  • Facilitator: Now take a moment to experience the awareness that is present throughout your body and surrounding space. See if the last - “I” welcomes dissolving into this aware space.

  • Client: Yes, it’s ready to open up.

  • Facilitator: Then gently invite it to relax and merge into awareness. Allow each “I” to dissolve in turn, until only open awareness - remains.

  • Facilitator: Now invite the original knot of anxiety to dissolve into this space. Then check in - how does this issue feel now?

  • Client: Wow, I feel so much lighter. The anxiety isn’t gone but it doesn’t feel so gripping. This is amazing!


The variables X and Y are placeholders for the individual’s spoken or nonverbal expressions in these questions.

  1. Eliciting a feeling response.

  2. Finding the chain of I’s associated with it.

  3. Inviting them to dissolve into Awareness.

  4. This releases limiting beliefs and transforms the original issue.


▢️ Youtube - Wholeness Work Meditation Teaching


▢️ Youtube - Coming to Wholeness with Connirae Andreas


Q: How many I’s is there or how do I recognize that I reached the last one?

A: Normally there are between 3 to 6 I’s. Nothing is written in the stone so follow up your proper path. You will know when you have reached the last one as it’s almost airy, transparent without solidness to it.


  • What do you call an unintegrated ego? A hole-y mess!

  • Why was the man unable to find his ‘I’? He lost his inner compass.

  • What happens when you dissolve into awareness? You evaporate into enlighten-mist.

  • A student told her teacher, “I tried to find my ‘I’ but I’m not sure where it is.” The teacher replied, “Eye don’t know either!”

  • How do you make an anxious ‘I’ relax? You dissolve it in awareness and let it be zen.

  • What did the first ‘I’ say to the second ‘I’? “I come before ‘U’!”

  • Why was the spiritual seeker unable to open the door to higher consciousness? Because he didn’t have the right key to integration.

  • What did the ‘I’ say when it disappeared? “I once was lost but now am found.”

  • Why did the ‘I’ cross the road? To get to the other side (of awareness).


  • Integrating is like an ice cube melting into a glass of water.

  • The ‘I’ is like a log; awareness is the fire that burns it away.

  • Awareness is like the sunlight that evaporates the morning fog.

  • The ‘I’ is a dense knot; integrating loosens and unties it.

  • The ‘I’ is a balloon filled with air; integrating pops it gently.

  • The ‘I’ is a dam; integrating opens the floodgates of awareness.

  • Integrating is a flower blossoming open to the sunlight.

  • The ‘I’ is a curtain; integrating pulls it back to reveal awareness.

  • he ‘I’ is like a wave that dissolves back into the ocean of awareness.

  • The ‘I’ is a shell; integrating cracks it open softly.

  • Integrating is a waterfall dissolving into the stream below.

  • The ‘I’ is a wall; integrating brings it crumbling down.

  • The ‘I’ is a dark cave; integrating fills it with light.

  • The ‘I’ is a sandcastle; integrating washes it calmly away.

  • Integrating is a bird escaping the cage of the ‘I’.

  • The ‘I’ is a pebble; integrating drops it gently into a pond.

  • The ‘I’ is a cloud; integrating dissolves it into clear sky.

  • Integrating is a snake shedding its old skin.

  • The ‘I’ is a snowman; integrating melts it in the spring sun.

  • Integrating is waking up from a dream of separation.


@book Andreas, Connirae. (2018). Coming to Wholeness: How to Awaken and Live with Ease (The Wholeness Work). Real People Press, ISBN-978-0911226515

@web The Wholeness Work

@video The Wholeness Work: Introduction with Connirae Andreas


“The highest reward for a man’s toil is not what he gets for it, but what he becomes by it.” - John Ruskin

  • I have used Connirae Andreas Offer, download, read, and reread, and reread, and reread the book Coming to Wholeness: How to Awaken and Live with Ease as well as 3 days Wholeness Video Training. - I have review the content and get to practice. As the process was delivering it’s result I got Streaming Wholeness work video series and upgrade my understanding and prepared for the challenges.
  • I have practiced with myself and others and after 200 sessions I can say my overall experience is good. Clients are changing not only issue they come up with, but as well as structure of meaning of their life which has wide repercussion to their relationship.
  • From personal perspective I do experience change kinesthetically and Wholeness Work is one of the processes which starts and follow up with kinesthetic lead.


The Wholeness Work, developed by Connirae Andreas, offers a gentle yet powerful approach to personal growth and transformation. Through its two core practices of the Basic Process and Meditation Format, it provides a way to find and dissolve our contracted sense of self or ‘I.’ As this happens, we gradually come to embody wholeness, awakening to our true nature as open, undivided awareness. The deceptive simplicity of this method belies its profound effects on those who practice it. By shifting our attention from conceptual meanings to directly sensing the ‘I’ and emotions as physical qualities, we can invite these to relax and integrate with awareness. Regular application of the Wholeness Work facilitates deep healing of lifelong issues, evolves our way of being, and unveils our innate wisdom and emotional intelligence.

While dramatic transformations are possible, this is not a quick fix or cure-all. Progress requires dedication and patience to gently undo our conditioned patterns. However, with sustained practice, increasing peace, clarity, creativity and joy naturally arise. We come home to ourselves, realizing our unbreakable connection to all life. In these times of division and turmoil, the Wholeness Work offers a path to remember that we already are the wholeness we seek. As more people embody this unbounded awareness, our world will reflect the understanding that there never was any separation in the first place. All appearance of fragmentation is but a passing dream in the mirror of consciousness.

This method represents a new frontier in therapeutic, meditative and spiritual disciplines. May all beings discover this doorway to come to wholeness, fulfill their highest potentials, and realize their true nature as infinite awareness.

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